She taught me to let go of the tension and stretch beyond my comfort zone. She warned me it would be hard and I would have to get comfortable with the discomfort associated with that.  I began to change the way I was thinking.   I put myself out there. It was hard to move away from the herd and leave the bad relationships behind but I did it. Now I am different. I am happy.  I loathe mediocrity. She was an inspiration to me.